Is there a healthy way to allow anger in children?

Is there a healthy way to allow anger in children?

Posted on: October 14th, 2016 by Neurohealth Associates

It is safe to say that all parents at some point or another have to deal with angry kids. Perhaps you have dealt with anger because of your kids getting angry or not obeying. Many parents are extremely uncomfortable when their children get angry. If you’re one of those parents, there are several things to consider and some helpful tips in navigating these seemingly treacherous waters.

  • Maybe you weren’t allowed to express your own anger as a child so you view any anger as something negative
  • Or it may be that you associate anger with selfishness or ungratefulness
  • You grew up with the believe that “good” kids are happy kids and therefore mad or sad kids are bad or not acceptable kids
  • You are uncomfortable with your own anger or disappointment and feel guilty or bad for feeling such emotions
  • You aren’t skilled at handling your own emotions of disappointment or anger

Whatever the reason, if you are the kind of parent who struggles each time your child exhibits strong emotions, then I’d like you to know that parenting is a wonderful opportunity to learn some new beliefs about anger and learn some new tools for yourself.

The first step in getting your kids anger under control is to “know thyself.” Figure out why you go from 0 to 60 in these circumstances, find out what the underlying believe is. Recognize what you can and cannot control, and get yourself under control before addressing the issue with your children.

Remember calm is contagious, and so is anxiety.

If you can master the art of self-control, you can set the atmosphere of your home and relationship with your children. Some of this content was taken from an article on EmpoweringParents.com to read that article in full please read more.

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